Super thought;Ring the bells that still can ring

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.

If the core of perfectionism is a belief in inner badness, then its opposite must contain some form of belief in inner goodness. There is, after all, a crack in everything, as Cohen sings. Rather than fixating on “cracks” as imperfections or blights, it is possible to view them as windows through which one’s “good enough” sense of self is fed and expressed.

There is a difference between healthy striving and grasping for perfection. Letting go of perfectionism is not equivalent to curling up in a ball and admitting defeat (all-or-nothing thinking). It is about setting goals based on your own needs and desires, not those of others. It is about stretching just a little beyond what you have previously achieved. It is about engaging in and enjoying the process, not just the end result.

Perfectionism is born in a relational context. Without others’ expectations and feedback to plant the seeds of perfectionism, it simply would not grow. But once it has sprouted, internal beliefs (“I’m not good enough”) continue the cultivation process. To let go of perfectionism, it is best to go back to its birthplace – relationship – to seek support and accurate feedback. But this time, you get to intentionally pick the relationships that will remind you that there is indeed a crack in everything. The cracks allow light and love to get in. Stop trying to seal them off.

credits;http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/08/30/ring-the-bells-that-still-can-ring-letting-go-of-perfectionism/http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/08/30/ring-the-bells-that-still-can-ring-letting-go-of-perfectionism/

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